The
Tomb Inscription of Yom Kyongae is a wealth
of information about the life of a married woman.
Written by her husband upon
her death, it describes the many ways Kyongae participated in her
familys
success. She had six children: four sons and two daughters, with her husband. All
the
children are described in positive terms. Her husband says she was pure
and modest, very
literate, and well understood moral obligations. These are
all qualities valued in women
according to Confucian principles. He notes her
daughterly service to her parents, and
subsequently her excellence as a wife.
In particular, he mentions Kyongae's special care of
elders and her skill in
perceiving and meeting their needsa true Confucian ideal of
womanliness.
In addition, Kyongae never complained when following
her
husband, even in poverty. She worked hard and managed to keep their
family afloat during
difficult circumstances. Also, she never forgot to offer
memorial sacrifices to the
father-in-law she never met, nor did she ever
neglect to serve the Buddhist monks during their
services. All the while, she
maintained great modesty and even a sense of inadequacy as she
struggled to
keep the family clothed and fed. Although her husband truly misses her and
takes
the time to reflect on her many virtues after her death, we get the
sense that she expected it
all to be taken for granted. A Korean womans world
during this era was entirely made up of
service and sacrifice for her family.
No thanks or acknowledgement was expected. That, too, is
the ideal of
Confucian femininity.
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