What caused Scout to change her mind about being a lady in To Kill a Mockingbird? Any quotes you have to back up your answer would be much...

is a
tomboy for most of the book. She prefers the company of boys and men and doesn't see the value
of being a lady, despite Aunt Alexandra's admonitions.marks a turning point in Scout's opinion
of being a lady, however. In this scene, Scout finds herself wearing her "pink Sunday
dress, shoes, and a petticoat" at Aunt Alexandra's missionary circle tea party. Although
she would have rather been swimming withand Dill, since they were skinny-dipping, she wasn't
allowed to join them. At the beginning of the chapter, Scout "admired the ease and grace
with which [Clapurnia] handled heavy loads of dainty things." She tries to mimic
Calpurnia's backing out of the swinging door of the kitchen, but she isn't strong
enough.

During the tea party, Aunt Alexandra is pleased with Scout's efforts
to act like a lady. She gently guides her to avoid responding inappropriately to some of the
women's comments. She is able to read the tension Aunt Alexandra feels when Mrs. Merriweather
tosses a veiled criticism ofinto the room. She notes the look of gratitude her aunt gives Miss
Maudie, and "wondered at the world of women." She recognizes the bond of mutual
support that Alexandra and Maudie share and seems intrigued, although she finds the world of men
more straightforward and less hypocritical.

When Scout learns of Tom
Robinson's death and realizes that Aunt Alexandra and Miss Maudie both side with Atticus's views
on the rights of blacks rather than with the townpeople's racism, she seems to recognize that
both women show the same strength and integrity that she admires in her father. At first she
believes Aunt Alexandra is crying behind her hands, but when she sees her aunt pull herself
together and face the women who have just said unkind and stupid things, she can't help but
respect her resilience. Aunt Alexandra shows bravery, integrity, and strength--all
characteristics that until that point, Scout had associated more with men and boys than with
ladies. She follows Aunt Alexandra's example, accepting her as a role model:

I carefully picked up the tray and watched myself walk to Mrs.
Merriweather. With my very best company manners, I asked her if she would have some. After all,
if Aunty could be a lady at a time like this, so could I.